A friend realized she would have to adjust her travel schedule so she could handle school registration for her kids. “A man would be so LOST trying to navigate registration,” she confided in her e-mail. ” ‘What? I’m supposed to know my kid’s SSN or school account number by heart? And phone numbers of five people who can check him out?’ I laugh at the thought of (husband) even trying to get one of them registered.”
This got me to thinking that school registration, like PTO, is still almost exclusively a mom’s domain. Although there are a few dads at the school on registration day writing checks and completing medication forms, they are the exception.
It amazes me that so many dads handle sizeable budgets or track complex project deliverables for their employers but we moms don’t hold them competent to deliver a simple blue immunization form. As the ultimate test, would your husband be able to discern a Youth Large from an Adult Small size school T-shirt? (Come to think of it, I always have trouble with that one myself.)
It’s not fair to say the guys can’t handle school registration, since the truth is most of us don’t even let them. I know a dad who is out of work and at home right now but the mom is taking time off of her job to register the kids at school. Do we really have so little faith? Even when we can complete most of the forms online ahead of time?
I think part of it comes down to school registration as an extension of our parenting. When we have to let the kids go to their own world at school, where they discover/build their own identities and relationships outside the family, we moms feel like we personally need to get them started off in the best possible way.
Besides, we want to make sure ours is the first number on that list of contacts.